Who can find a virtuous woman? This is the question! We can see that the virtuous woman has a lot of different attributes. She is highly valued, her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value, because of her. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of his life. She is a hard worker, she works from early morning. She is a good provider for others. She is wise in her business deals. When she makes a profit she invests it to provide more. She is diligent in her work, she is strong for her tasks. She recognizes how to make a profit, she works until the sun goes down. She helps the poor and the needy. She prepares for the seasons, her household does not have to worry about being cold from lack of preparation. She takes care of herself, her appearance. Her husband is respected because of her. She is strong and has decency. She does not worry about the future for she understands who holds it (God). She is wise in speech and faithful instruction comes out of her mouth. She watches over her house and does not waste a moment. Her children arise and call her blessed. They recognize God’s hand on her life. Her husband also calls her blessed and recognizes God’s hand on her. Her husband cherishes her above all other women. Her husband is wise enough to know that charm is deceptive and beauty fades, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. He will give her the reward she has earned, and her works will give her praise among the people.

Now I want to address some of the details that we see about the virtuous woman. Number one, not every woman is going to attain to all of the attributes of this woman and if you have praise God!!! This is a template to follow as a virtuous woman, something to look at yourself and say, am I doing what this woman is doing? If not, then you can look at it and see where you need to improve, we all need to do this from time to time. I know what some of you women are thinking, I can’t do all of this who has the time and the patience! Well don’t feel bad, us guys we have to compare ourselves to Christ and you know that none of us are even going to get close. He is perfect unlike us.

I have met some very awesome women in my time, but there is nothing more attractive to me than a godly woman being virtuous in all that she does. Our society has gotten so far away from these attributes today, that there are not that many attractive women, most of them have bought the lies and defiled themselves with all sorts of worldly things. They are beautiful on the outside, but very ugly on the inside, this is what needs to change today, women need to work on the inside, quit selling themselves short and become modest again, showing their true beauty from within. Focusing on being kind and modest, loving and faithful, lovers of others instead of themselves. The longer that I am married to my wife, the more that I fall in love with her, for she has so many of these attributes perfected already, she is not anything like the immoral woman that is spoken about in Scripture, and as far as I can tell the Word of God only speaks of two kinds of women, the immoral and the virtuous, you have to choose which one you want to be. I hope that you pick the virtuous and that God blesses that decision!!!

This message is to the guys. You will find many women who have many of these attributes of the virtuous woman and not be that virtuous woman. Just because she acts like a virtuous woman does not mean that she is one. You need to look at how she interacts with others. Is she kind, is she diligent, does she have dignity, is she faithful, is she wise, do people speak kindly about her, is she about herself or does she think about you and her household? But above all, does she fear the LORD? This is the key to a godly virtuous woman!!! For no matter how beautiful, how smart, how sexy she is and how many of these attributes that she has, if she does not fear the LORD, she will never be this woman, because fear of the LORD will give her all of these attributes in due time, if her heart is right with God. We need to be wise when we pick a wife and we need to realize the woman that you are picking might be the woman who will raise your children. Is she kind, is she motherly? You and her might decide not to have children and that is alright also, but remember her outer beauty is going to fade and will you still love the person that she is? I hope that whoever reads this study either becomes the virtuous woman spoken of or finds the virtuous woman spoken of!!! May God Bless You and keep you and continue to perfect you!!!

Virtuous: having goodness; right action and thinking; morality; good, moral, chaste, etc.

Proverbs 31: 10-31

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of his life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. ” Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.