Now Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:1 that it is good for a man not to marry. Paul is not trying to discourage marriage, but is letting men know that it is okay not to marry. It is okay for you to be single if that is what the LORD has called you to be. If this is your calling you will not have the desire for marriage. Now the Scriptures clearly tell the husband that he should fill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. This clearly means that you have an obligation to each other to fulfill each others sexual desires. Now when it comes to sex in marriage it has to be mutual on each spouses part for the sexual encounter. To clarify, if there is no oral sex in the marriage bed it is suppose to be of mutual consent. These are things that should clearly be discussed before marriage in order to have a healthy sex life. Now remember gentlemen your wife’s body belongs to you, but this means that you do not want to do anything to her that would hurt her or that you would not be proud of period. In verse 5 it says to come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Satan is going to do everything that he can in order to interrupt your sex life. Like getting into a fight right before you planned on being together. I know so many men that have gotten into pornography by this very trick of the Devil. He starts a fight between the husband and the wife, then the man gets away from his wife and listens to that deceptive voice that is telling him to go watch some total stranger (a woman), that is willing to do whatever he was just desiring to do with his wife. In verse 10 it says that a wife must not separate from her husband. The reason for this is so that the woman when she is offended by her husband will not decide to leave because of his cruelty. It clearly teaches that if she is a believer and he is not, then he is set apart by the LORD because of her. Now it also says that a husband must not divorce his wife. This is because when a man decides to divorce his wife, this decision is truly his own and he will own it before the LORD. Now when it comes to divorce, the Word of God only allows it due to two different situations. The first is infidelity (Cheating on your spouse), the second is abandonment (your spouse leaving you). Now according to Scripture it says that Moses allowed divorce because of the hardness of their hearts. But it also says that it was not like this in the beginning. God never intended for divorce and it says in the Book of Malachi that God hates divorce. The marriage and divorce studies should be read through thoroughly before any kind of marriage plans in my opinion. I believe that everyone should go through biblical marriage counseling before marriage so that they fully understand the commitment that they are making to their spouse and the covenant that they are entering into with the LORD. People are afraid to commit, because they have seen so many marriages fail, but almost everyone that you have met that their marriage has failed did not go through biblical pre-marital counseling. I hope that you enjoy this study and that God makes you the husband that you should be to your wife and that you treat her as yourself, according to Scripture it says that if you are harsh with your wife, that the LORD will not answer your prayers. We need to understand that our wives are God’s daughters, now how would you feel if someone was treating your daughter the way that you have been treating your wife? We need to think before we speak and learn not to engage when they come at us. Learn to be a better communicator and be quick to listen and slow to speak. May God Bless You through this study and please try to apply what the LORD will teach you through this study into your marriage and see if God does not bless your marriage. One more suggestion, have your wife read this study and then you read the Wives study. It is good to see what the LORD says to your spouse also. Not to throw it in their face, but to gently help them remember what to do and not to do. My wife continues to help me in this area and thank God, it definitely blesses our marriage, because she has a better memory than I do.
I Corinthians 7:1-16
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this command ( not I, but the Lord ): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest, I say this ( I, not the Lord ): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:28
But if you marry, you will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
Ephesians 5:22-33
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—- for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery— but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
I Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Titus 2:1-2
You must teach what is in accord with sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.
Titus 2 :6-8
Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose you may be ashamed because they have nothing bad to say about us.
Matthew 5:31-32
“It has been said, Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
Matthew 19:3-9
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, ” Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”” Haven’t you read”, he replied, ” That at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said, , For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”