When a woman becomes a wife it is a huge moment in her life. Here in the United States it is like the Cinderella story coming to fruition to some extent. Her prince charming has come and rescued her. Now as you will see in Scripture, a wife should be prepared by the older women to be a good wife, to love her husband and children, to be submissive to her husband, to respect her husband, to have reverence and purity, to have a quiet and gentle spirit, to not give way to fear, to have self-control. The older women in our society have really messed this one up as far as I am concerned. Our society is completely out of control and it shows with the divorce rates. There are very few women in today’s society that actually have these qualities and the next generation is definitely not being taught it now.
Look I want to point something out in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, it states that the husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. DO NOT DEPRIVE EACH OTHER!!! Look at the reason that the LORD gives for this, so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Now I know that there are a lot of women out there that use sex as a tool against their husbands, then wonder why later on he has an issue with pornography or has an affair. Look ladies, do not deprive your husbands, he loves you and believe me when I tell you from a man’s perspective, he would not have married you except he loves you and thought that you were sexually attractive, no matter how much weight you have gained or how age has taken your beauty, the LORD gives you the answer. Focus on the inside!!!!!!! I have never met a man to this day, that cheated on his wife that thought that she was the most beautiful woman on the inside. I have met many men who have cheated on some very beautiful women, even with someone who is not as attractive, due to the reason, that they felt respected by the other woman, she did not brow beat him, she treated him special, she saw that he had good qualities. Sound familiar, you use to look at your husband the same way, what happened. Other women see it, but you have forgotten it or got to busy with the kids and your job, to make him feel that way anymore.
I am not trying to beat up the women at all. What I am trying to do is save marriages! Our society has become really messed up and the last few generations have really screwed it up. People buy the lie and reject the truth. In this study you will see that women are supposed to submit to their own husbands in everything. This is true, but if the husband is trying to get you to submit to something that is illegal, or against what the LORD has said, then you do not have to submit to it. God has given the authority structure, man is accountable to God, the wife is accountable to the husband. The women should be looking at it as this is a big burden off of their shoulders. I do not believe that the husband should lord his authority over his wife in any way. I personally believe what the Scriptures teach, and that is, that God took Eve from Adam’s side to be his helper. She is supposed to be by his side, not in front of him or behind him, but should be by his side, helping him. Let’s face it, women are different then men and men are different than women, that is the way it should be. We should compliment each other not beat each other up. Television today belittles men and make them out to be stupid. But reality is, a man that takes care of his business, puts God first, family second, church third, and work fourth obviously has his priorities straight. Without God he would not have his family, his family is his first ministry, then the ministries that he can get involved with to help others. And the job, well that is how God provides for the family. Remember, God is the provider, not the job. God uses the job for the provisions, and while your husband is at work, he has certain job responsibilities, as you do, if you work out of the house. I totally respect a family that can have a mother stay home and raise the children, in my eyes, there is no more important job than this. Raising children is our future and to teach a little girl how to become a submissive wife, who has self-control, purity, a gentle and reverent spirit, that will not bow down to fear, in a world where the LORD Himself has told her that you will face many troubles in this life when you get married. She decides to do it anyway, that is success!!!!!!!!! I hope that the LORD blesses you and that you received something from this study, may God bless your marriage and I hope that become the wife you have always wanted to be. May God Bless You and have a blessed marriage my Beloved!!!
I Corinthians 7:1-16
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for . a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this command ( not I, but the Lord ): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest, I say this ( I, not the Lord ): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
I Corinthians 7:28
But if you marry, you will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
I Corinthians 7:39-40
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is— and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
Ephesians 5:22-33
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—- for we are members of his body. F or this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery— but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Colossians 3:18
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
I Peter 3:1-6
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
Titus 2:3-5
Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
Matthew 5:31-32
“It has been said, Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
Matthew 19:3-9
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, ” Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read”, he replied, “That at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”